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So, let me start… I came from Saudi Arabia and got admission in Bahria University, Islamabad. When the semester commenced, I was pretty thrilled regarding everything. I wanted to interact as much as I could and wanted to know more people. Now for some reason, I couldn’t gel in with the girls in my class because I found them very artificial, so I used to stay with the boys and to be honest I felt way too comfortable with them because they weren’t into gossiping.

Now that’s when I got to know that people are judging me so I decided to befriend the girls. I made few girl friends, they were super nice to me but they took advantage of me. They always used their manipulative ways and made me spell out all my secrets. Secondly, I thought that’s how it works so I used to be more of an extrovert I didn’t know how to act fake or how to trap people, I literally used to believe and trust people easily. I thought I am smart enough to know which people to trust, but the entire semester passed and I was all naive. I made so many friends but when the semester came to an end I got to know all those people who were playing cool with me actually made fun of me behind my back, they took me so wrong they actually thought I am an  attention seeker. Meanwhile I was just trying to be nice to everyone.

The girls I trusted with my dark secrets went on spreading them everywhere by exaggerating them. The ones who acted sincerely to me were the ones who judged me and spoke behind my back… but now I’ve learned that one should keep up with everyone but never trust anyone because when needed they can use your personal stuff to target you.

So, it’s my message for all the students especially the ones who are coming from other countries and the ones who’ll be starting their university now, don’t get too excited! Don’t get too close to people. Tell people only the basic stuff don’t trust them with everything. In university life, most of the people will envy you and this negative sentiment leads people to ruin the others lives by targeting their image. Stay as much reserved as you can and never let your self-esteem down at any cost and never justify yourself.

People will speak shit about you because they need spice in life but you need to simply ignore them and pay attention to your own character. People will try their best to let you down but you need to fight for your own self and prove yourself, you should know where you stand. We learn from our mistakes and now I’ve learned so I would never want anyone else to go through the same phase. My advice, just stay alert and don’t let anyone come in between you and your personal life. Everyone is selfish here and you need to be selfish too to make things work!