I’ve heard many women using the terms ‘just friends’ and the ‘rishta agya’ to fool guys. Here, I would share with you a short story of a girl who emotionally used a guy to get popular and then she used a highly baseless justification to dump the guy that, ‘we were just best friends’ for her marriage proposal. There is nothing wrong with making guy friends, however, misleading them for your own benefit is truly unjust.
So, there was an extremely handsome guy who was her junior in the university. He was shy and barely talked to girls. Like you would expect from a handsome guy to have a girl ‘fan following’, so he was very popular, with everyone swooning over him. He was a basketball captain as well which made it all the more cherry on top. Every girl just wanted to be with him but he never raised his eyes to stare at any girl or talk to them, himself.
So, just like all the other girls, this girl constantly sent him messages on Facebook and begged to talk to her just once (which is utterly unethical) and she went to talk to him in person, making all the attempts she could to initiate a communication between the two. The guy wasn’t initially interested in the least, he even hadn’t looked at her, but just answered her as she was dying to talk to him. And thus, their friendship grew into a relationship which was not officially declared but everyone sensed it. She tried all her best to keep him emotionally attached. She bought things for him even when he told her not to, she showed her care by putting the umbrella to a 6-2 height for him, she showered her love by saying ‘I love you’ all the time and much more!
When he wanted an official declaration of their relationship, she replied with a very filmy dialogue that, “If we get in a relationship, our friendship could break”. But the reality was opposing the fact since they had all the extra couple kind of photos. Her friends sensed the intimacy between the two through their actions. She not only told him about her infertility, mood swings, and other daily habits but also pressurized him to deal with it. He calmly bothered her for the sake of the relationship only he was thinking of!
Finally, one day, he asked her if they could be married and she replied harshly that, “Well, my parents would never agree”. Another lie! Infact to one of her friends she even said, “My parents didn’t force me to choose my life partner, I choose myself” This girl also ridiculed his financial conditions by saying, “Girls always go for well-settled guys”. Why did she say that if he was her friend? Why did she tell him that? Just to make him miserable because he is poor? Pathetic.
And talking to him, I got to know he was completely devastated even he couldn’t study, he felt like crying again and again. He didn’t understand how someone could break his trust that way, it was more brutal than any physical injury that still has it undying marks on him. He wondered why he ever got fooled. Why did he talk to a girl begging him? Why did he not see she was lying to him? She came close just for fun, for sensuality, for feeling good about herself.
He still wishes that she should have told him that all this was just time pass and her initial forcing to talk to him that led to this whole thing. He even had a good chance of sharing all their intimate chats flowered with ‘I love you’ and his pictures with her to her husband (to be then in 2015) but he didn’t, he knew if they were sent, her marriage would definitely be canceled, so he forgave her!
I share this here for all those who have been used the same way and later on given this poor justification to make it all the more puzzlingly painful and being blamed for being emotionally fooled. If someone likes you, ask them if they want to get married or not? What is the aim of the relationship moving ahead? If there are feeling or no feelings? Don’t let it linger to just friends and let someone use you!