Marriage for Muslims holds a greater significance than just coming together in union and starting a new phase of their lives with their significant other. The marital relationship is something even Allah encourages and advises to be established as soon as possible. The union hold special significance in front of Allah and is considered to complete half of your deen.
Allah Says in the Quran:
“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.” [Qur’an: Chapter 30, Verse 21]
However, just like every relationship has its trials, marriage isn’t as easy or rosy as it is portrayed in the movies. It requires a lot of commitment, patience and forgiving. LoveAgain, these are just a few qualities out of the plethora of attributes that one needs to acquire to run their marriage as smoothly as possible.
Still, Islam is a complete religion that has touched this area in detail. The life of Prophet Muhammad SAW with his wives and vice verse is one of the most beautiful examples to take as reference. There are 10 habits that we have found to be of great significance in keeping a marriage smooth sailing.
10 Habits Of Muslim Couples That Change The Course Of Their Marriage With Happiness And Bliss As The Ultimate Destination.
1. Love each other for the sake of Allah SWT
In its essence, it means that Allah chose a partner for you and for the sake of the Allah you respect and love your spouse. You are in this together and your ultimate goal is to attain Allah’s acceptance and pleasure.
Nothing is placed on the Scale that is heavier than good character. Indeed the person with good character will have attained the rank of the person of fasting and prayer.” [Tirmidhi]
Spouses that understand the importance of marriage in Islam and for the sake of Allah SWT love their spouse, support them, cherish them and help them in getting closer to Allah are bound to have a great successful marriage. Basing your love solely on the other person might lead to disappointment as humans are prone to making mistakes but when that love is borne out of obedience to Allah, it not only lasts but grows even more.
2. They talk to each other like best friends
Friendship plays an important role in a happy marriage. Having that safe space with your spouse where you are allowed to be yourself, joke with and enjoy their company is a great blessing.
Allah’s Prophet says, “Allah’s Messenger said to her: “I know when you are pleased with me or angry with me.” I said, “Whence do you know that?” He said, “When you are pleased with me, you say, ‘No, by the Lord of Muhammad,’ but when you are angry with me, then you say, ‘No, by the Lord of Abraham.’ ” Thereupon I said, “Yes (you are right), but by Allah, O Allah’s Messenger, I leave nothing but your name.” [Bukhari]”
3. They are each other’s comfort
Happy Muslim couples strive to be each other’s comfort as they respect and love their spouse for the sake of Allah SWT. When both the husband and the wife tries to ease each other’s lives, it creates a blissful harmony inviting happiness and joy.
Allah says in the Quran, “And those who say, “Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.” [Qur’an: Chapter 25, Verse 74]
4. They keep each other as a priority
Couples that take time for each other no matter what placing their significant other as their priority helps in keeping the marriage exciting, their spouse interested and feeling wanted even after years down the line.
A good marriage is a lot of work and neglecting your spouse every day slowly pushes them away creating distance between the couple. This, if continued for a long period of time for whatever reason leads to serious consequences that even involve divorce. Sometimes with kids and jobs, one takes their spouse for granted and neglects them unknowingly. Make a routine which involves a special time slot dedicated for them only.
5. The play as a team and fight the real enemy
They are mindful of not inviting vices like ego, evil eye, and satan. Couple that prays together stays together? This is what they do to make sure they protect each other and their marriage from the evil eye and whispers of the Shaytaan. Ego is another huge negative trait that requires a strong will to keep it at bay. But for couples that love and cherish each other for Allah, keeping their ego in check is easy.
Even in the Quran Allah talks about those who master their bad qualities and get rid of it are the real victors. He says, “And [by] the soul (self) and He who proportioned it. And inspired it [with discernment of] its wickedness and its righteousness. He has succeeded who purifies it, and he has failed who instills it [with corruption].” [Qur’an: Chapter 91, Verse 7-10]
6. They are mindful of Allah SWT during a conflict with their spouse
When one has the fear of Allah, they would not hurt another Muslim and gain His wrath. Especially when it is their own partner, they would be mindful of Shaytaan as well. Since the favorite task of Shaytaan and his forces is to separate a married couple.
Allah says, “And tell My servants to say that which is best. Indeed, Satan induces [dissension] among them. Indeed Satan is ever, to mankind, a clear enemy.”[Qur’an: Chapter 17, Verse 53]”
So those who are aware of this would try to minimize the conflict as much as possible and try to understand where they are coming from.
There is no such thing as a happy marriage, but one can definitely try their best to make it as joyous as possible. Islam truly is a beautiful religion and has provided such great guidelines, advising to love, respect and value each other.
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