And the best nand award goes to me. Wait, what? Is it even possible? Oh yes, it is! My bhabi just said, “Agar Tum Larka Hoti Tou Me Tumse Shaadi Kerleti”. Phew! I had to make a lot of effort to gain that compliment! It’s never easy to turn from “Gund” to “Nund”. Just remember the golden rules;
1. It’s Her Life
Her bedroom. Her clothes. Her HUSBAND! So stop trying to be the miss-know-it-all and instructing on how to keep her room tidy, a way of doing the dishes or the laundry or keeping her hubby satisfied. Stop being her teacher. Advise only when asked for.
2. No Judgements Please. She Is A Different Person And Not You Of Course With Different Likes And Dislikes And Yes, Sleep Patterns Too!
It is perfectly normal to dislike your favorite palak gosht or gobhi gosht. Keep your hawwwwwws to yourself.
3. Smile. Yes, Each Time You See Each Other, Do That!
Because smile brings the peace!
4۔ Listen. Let Her Voice Out Her Opinions
Don’t be like the TV-anchor of a political show who talks more than his guests!
5۔ Empathize. Treat Her As You Wish To Be Treated
Tit for tat!
6. Last But Not The Least; Allah Has Created Us For Helping Each Other Grow Emotionally, Physically And Spiritually
Help comes only when you are kind enough to do so! Whoever is kind to others, Almighty Allah will be kind to him!
So before you start trying to change the new addition in your family, instill these above mentioned tried and tested rules in your head and heart. Next, is only the best!