The first relation Allah has made was of husband and wife – Hazrat Adam (AS) and Bibi Hawa (AS). The last relation is also of the husband and wife in Jannah, where they would remain forever.
Islam is a complete religion (deen), it has given certain rights to husband and to the wife so they could live a prosperous life. marriage is a necessity, a cardinal social institution, without it society is incomplete. Allah says in the Quran, “And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves…” (Surah Ar-Rum, verse 21).
It was narrated from Ibn Abbas that: the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said: “There is nothing like marriage, for two who love one another” – Ibne Maja Vol. 3, Book 9, Hadith 1847
Responsibilities of a Husband
Husband as protector
A husband has to look after each and every necessity of his wife, he has to protect her and support her through thick and thin. Allah stated in Holy Quran, “Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth” – Sura Nisa, verse 34
Be compassionate
A husband should always remain kind to his wife Prophet (SAW) said, ‘The more one becomes faithful, the more one expresses kindness to his spouse’ – Bihar ul Anwar, volume 103 page 227
Show your love
Love your wife show her the warmth of your heart, Prophet (SAW) said, ‘The words of a man who tells his wife, ‘I love you truly’, should never leave her heart” – Shafi, volume 2, page 138
Dignity
True love is always about respect. If any of the partners does not respect the other, it would diminish love between the soul-mates. The Prophet (SAW) said, ‘None would respect women except the magnanimous ones, and none would insult them except the ignoble ones’ – Mawa iz al-Adadiyyah, page 151
Your manners count
Manners, in particular, show whether you love your wife or not. The Prophet (SAW) stated ”Whoever is more well-behaved is more complete in his faith. The best among you (the people) is one who does good to his family.” Sahih Muslim
Duties of a Wife
Marriage can’t be successful without the efforts of both husband and wife. In Islam, Allah has endowed certain right upon wives for their husband.
Taking care of the needs
A woman has to maintain the house and should try to satiate her husband by taking care of his needs. Prophet (SAW) asserted, “Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, enters Paradise.” – Riyad Us Saliheen Book 1 Hadith 286
Kindness is the key
Kindness is a significant action as it can turn thrones into flower with true spiritual power. “And one of His signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find rest in them, and He put between you love and compassion; most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect,” (Surah Ar-Rum, verse 21)
Unnecessary complaints and taunting
The Prophet (SAW) asserted, ”The prayers of a woman who teases her husband with her tongue, are not accepted (by Allah) even though she fasts every day, gets up for the acts of worship every night, sets free a few slaves and donates her wealth in the way of Allah. A bad-tongue woman who hurts her husband in this way is the first person who enters hell” – Bihar ul Anwar, volume 76 page 363
Regard your husband above all
Prophet (SAW) said, ”Any married woman, who looks at other men, would be subject to the vehement wrath of Allah.” – Bihar ul Anwar, volume 104 page 39
In a nutshell, the beautiful relation of marriage becomes more prolific when fulfilled according to Islam. The ever-rising statistics of divorce and violence of husband against wife or betrayal of a wife with a husband are all motivated by un Islamic teachings. One can find the key of a prosperous marriage in Quran and Sunnah. Further, one can read the life of Prophet Muhammad with special reference to his relations with Bibi Khadija (R.A) and Bibi Ayesha (R.A) and Relationship of Hazrat Ali (R.A) and Bibi Fatimah (R.A) to understand true meanings of marriage.
