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This is not the first time when the double standards of men are challenged but everybody has their own way of portraying things. Men in our society are always the soft targets and they are never been asked for the actions they do. Without any hesitation, I wanted to share my story with you guys. I could never feel secure at home because my best friend was indeed my abuser. This is an interesting fact that our parents taught us to stay away from strangers and not to accept things form strangers but always forgot to teach us about the strangers in our own houses.

I am 22 years old and Alhamdullilah living a blessed life by the grace of Allah Almighty. The reason of writing this article is to provide hope to those girls who have ever suffered from this situation and to tell them that even if we couldn’t stop it at that time, it doesn’t mean to live with the trauma for the rest of your life. Learn from my story that you could live a beautiful despite being a victim of physical abuse.

I couldn’t forget the day when I was playing hide and seek with my siblings and suddenly, my Mamu came over and said that he will hide with me, hold my hand towards the closet and close the doors… What happened then changed my life. He physically abused me and as I was merely 11-years-old, I couldn’t understand what exactly happened. Days passed, this activity continued daily and during this time period, I faced depression, anxiety, and fear. I came to hate myself.

The worst part of this whole situation was that I started to stammer and at night, I had nightmares regarding him. Whenever I decided to tell someone, all I could remember was that he told me that if you would tell your mom and dad, they will kill you and as being a child, I had no choice rather than to agree to him.

But one fine day, when I was in grade 8, I decided that if I will stop it and that was the day when I, for the very first time, realized the presence of Allah Almighty with me. And, when I visited my Nani’s house, he again tried the same thing. I didn’t let him do it and that was somewhat an end to my misery, pain, and disgrace. Now I am 22 and Alhamdullilah living a contended and the satisfied life. I can’t do anything whenever he is in front of me but I feel relieved knowing that my one action stopped everything.

The lesson I want to give to my readers is that if you believe in the strength of Allah Almighty and believe in yourself, you could live a balanced and beautiful life despite being a victim of abuse. So girls, find the way of your existence and never lose hope. I know that it is not easy to forget that has happened with you but you can change the things with your positive attitude and you should realize the fact that you were strong enough to handle the situation by your own self and the reason why I am saying all this is that I have suffered all of this and have become a better person.

I never told my story to anybody as I always realize that if I would tell it to somebody they will only have mercy for me and I would never give anybody the chance of talking about my character. So, I remained firm and always believed in Allah that things will change and a day will come when everything will be alright. It is my advise to all of you guys to please believe in Allah and to positively change your existing condition.

My biggest fear at that was that if I tell my story to anyone, they will never believe me and will never understand me but with the passage of time, I realized that if a person believes in Allah Almighty things change. This belief became the reason for my happiness and I was capable enough to handle it.

For those of you who are reading this article, keep in mind that I have written it for your awareness and I would love if especially the victims learn something and live a better life.