Of the many #CoupleGoals, your significant other being your Best Friend Forever is one. We see many wedding picture captions centered around “Married my best friend” and essentially, it has become one of the most cliched statements ever.
There’s nothing wrong with being close to someone you are spending your entire life with (or plan on to) – they should be your confidant and someone who is aware of everything about you, but being a BFF is a completely different responsibility for one.
Once someone ties the knot, especially in our society, they are expected to abandon or lessen their social life. In such cases, one realizes the importance of a BFF, which cannot be met by the husband, for the relationship differs.
The 3 Reasons Why Your Partner Cannot be Your BFF are the Following
1. It Puts On Too Much Pressure On Them
If you leave your BFF, who’s going to be there when experiencing troubles in your relationship? Of course, you cannot rely on your partner who’d be absolutely and royally pissed at you, right? It just makes things worse and we don’t notice that.
Having your partner for love, support, companionship, and friendship is just too much for ONE person to fulfill. Having a bond with your partner is entirely different from confiding in them ONLY when things go South.
Depending on just person to be your emotional rock is too much to ask from them.
Having the outside buds (who you trust) is extremely important, especially when the two of you hit a snag.
2. Does he Really Have to Know EVERYTHING?
I have seen people who are not particularly into sharing every its and bits of their life and honestly, it seems fine. The devil is definitely in the detail and well, just leave some room for mystery, don’t you think?
Do not hide things from them that can potentially ruin your relationship. Just avoid letting familiarity set in and be comfortable in your own space. Does he really have to know that you just unfriended someone from your Facebook for XYZ reason? Naaaah.
Keep in mind, you don’t want to drive a wedge between you and him by confusing this with keeping secrets. Telling them the important goings-on? A must share.
3. There Won’t Be Nothing New Left on the Plate
Being with the non-BFF person could have different hobbies and interests which the both of you can do together. When your partner shares the same schedule, friends, social circle as you do, one may begin to feel how they are losing their individuality (something which would bother me). Them being aware of your social circle and even meeting them once or thrice or even occasionally is perfect, but treating it as a norm? NOPE.
With two unique people who have their own passions to experience and share brings a lot to the plate. Strike a balance between spending some time apart and together – give each other some room.
Again, don’t confuse this with being detached from your partner completely – it is essential for them to know what’s happening in your life and be there for you, but the ground rules of being a BFF is just entirely different. Plus, you can’t expect men to understand everything that goes in a woman’s mind and vice versa.
