Article

Here’s What A Male Pakistani Feminist Has To Go Through Everyday

64 views

Disclaimer*: The articles shared under 'Your Voice' section are sent to us by contributors and we neither confirm nor deny the authenticity of any facts stated below. Parhlo PInk will not be liable for any false, inaccurate, inappropriate or incomplete information presented on the website. Read our disclaimer.

“You’re not like other men”

The connotations for this phrase are terrifying for two reasons; firstly, not harassing women or making them feel uncomfortable and understanding their basic rights as human beings as a male shouldn’t be the exception, it should be the norm. Secondly, hearing this phrase fills one with a sense of guilt.

I feel this way because my words, my basic decency, come from a sense of entitlement. As a Pakistani, male feminist, I expect to be praised for my actions, to be told that I am “not like other men” when really, I am exactly like other men. I benefit from the same kind of privilege that “other men” benefit from and take advantage of.

Source: Truth and Love United

The fact that I know I benefit from privilege, but refuse to pinpoint exactly how; reveals the issue itself. If I were to ask the average female about privilege, I’d be given a full, unabridged account of my hypocrisy.

Source: Favim.com

That is what I cannot bring myself to do. I fear to leave this bubble of mine, one where I am “not like other men”. One cannot even call it the fear of the unknown for one very simple reason; some part of me knows the truth of my privilege. Some part of me recognizes that my self-label as a “feminist” is window-dressing for the fact that I, being an upper-middle class Pakistani male, benefit from the patriarchy. I benefit from my male privilege just as much as the average man who takes issue with heating his own food in a microwave (a truly Herculean task).

I fear to leave my comfortable shell because I like to be patted on the back. I like to see myself as the wonderful, white knight savior of women who “understands them” and their suffering in a conservative, third-world society. In effect, I love being told I am “not like other men” when I am exactly like them.

All hail hypocrisy.


Snap Chat Tap to follow