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We often tend to overlook situations where our due right is either sabotaged or crippled just because we are born Female! My question is very simple for everyone out there, why are we women born to live with and tolerate torture and violence? WHY? Be it in any form physical/mental suffering, rape, sexual assault, throwing acid or honor killing.
It is rightly said in the words of Lundy Bancroft:
Has he ever trapped you in a room and not let you out?
Has he ever raised a fist as if he were going to hit you?
Has he ever thrown an object that hit you or nearly did?
Has he ever held you down or grabbed you to restrain you?
Has he ever threatened to hurt you?
If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then we can stop wondering whether he’ll ever be violent; he already has been.
This story comes from a girl fearless to live her dreams on her own but was time and again reminded by her father that she was nothing but a trash can full of failures in her life. She strived to beat all social and cultural norms just to achieve her dream but guess what? She need not hide it from anyone but just her FATHER! Father being the man of his rules and principles never allowed that poor soul to achieve any of her dreams, yet her courage took her to those heights which she never dreamt of.
Remember she has spirited up to this level that physical torture and abuse threats meant nothing to her. Let me tell you one thing, 15 years down the memory lane, the domestic violence continued always and had no stopping. How could this ever stop? When the abuser is all powerful and all mighty.
It is always heard in movies and drama’s that a son is a nothing but a mere reflection of his father. Little did that little girl knew what destiny had kept for her. In absence of the father, the brother had to play the role of all mighty and all dominant. Brothers are known to for their overprotective nature for sisters, but in this case, sadly brother was the lead person in making the poor girl become a victim of domestic violence.
The greater the demand to get the education the double the physical torture. Why is it always next to impossible for a woman only to get her dreams? Why not for a man? After all, both are human beings injected with feelings and life.
The sorcery of this little girl and million other girls will never end until unless women don’t raise their voice and hands. Domestic Violence today is not a social issue but a social norm! Be it any case, the male is blessed with the right to raise their voice and hands at all platforms. According to a study carried out in 2016 by Human Rights Watch, it is estimated that between 80 to 90 percent of women in Pakistan are subjected to some or other sort of domestic violence. The people of Pakistan definitely need to curtail this endemic social and public health problem.
Let me end my blog with a famous saying of Russell Wilson:
“The more that we choose not to talk about domestic violence, the more we shy away from the issue, the more we lose.”