This Girl Just Exposed The Harsh Reality Of "Khaana Peena System" In Funerals And She Makes So Much Sense!

The diversity of cultures in Pakistan has brought Pakistanis into sheer complexity. On one hand, we are deeply influenced by the ethos of sub-continent and on the other hand, we are heavily inspired by Islamic culture.

Being an Islamic country, Pakistan needs to follow an Islamic culture, but its denizens are often more inclined towards Indian culture. This conflict in culture gives rise to social ills.

Tbh i am so digusted by this khanaa peena system at funerals. When papa died maa and sis was in total shock and i was the son and the daughter of my family and people were shamefully asking me to refill the trays for them. One even asked for mineral water. This is so ridiculous.
— Summertime sadness. (@BiyaAli9) November 11, 2018

A recent viral tweet depicts how our society is making the worst possible actions. The girl tweeted how she was persuaded for more food at the funeral of her dad. She showcases her feelings in anguish and wrote, “people have some shame at least. I pray no one ever gets to eat such food. every bite becomes heavy on your throat.”

She further reacted to her tweet

The first right on the meals is of the family members of the deceased because they are so saddened by the tragic demise that they can't carry out normal life activities. But funerals become walima parties for everyone and no one gives a rat shit about the family members.
— Summertime sadness. (@BiyaAli9) November 11, 2018

Sadly, every word she uttered is true and a food for thought for all of us. How come people forget the pain of the family of the deceased person and ask them for food? Instead of helping them at the time of misery they ask them to refill their glass and plates. This aggrandizes the pain of the family and further depresses them.

Moreover, there are aunties and uncles who not even ask for food and other services but heavily criticize the management of funeral. People like them often caught saying, ” The chicken is not properly cooked,” and “look at their house so nasty.” or say, “although they are rich, they could have cooked meat instead of chicken. Look at his wife, she does not seem sad at all.”

According to Islam, it is the duty of relatives and neighbors instead of the family. On the news about the death of Jafar, ibn Abi Talib, the Prophet (S.A.W) said to Fatima: ‘Prepare food for the family of Jafar, for there has come to them what has preoccupied them (Abu Dawud).” Further such gatherings of feasts are the tradition of ” jahiliya period” hence, not permissible in Islam. Jarir ibn Abdullah (ra) said: “We, the companions of the messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Salam), used to consider gathering with the family of the deceased and preparing food after the burial from niyahah (prohibited form of wailing from the days of ignorance).”

The immense reactions on the tweet of the lady prove how tired people are of such condemnable acts.

She seconded to the tweet of a Pakistani girl

Same thing happened to my friend. Her phupos were shouting at her to get up and serve everyone. While she was barely stable, I was shocked to my core and I couldn't imagine how much would she be suffering/hurting.
— maheen (@uhailurophile) November 11, 2018

Rightly said

I have heard people complaining for not getting leg piece in biryani
— Asad Sultan (@AsadSultan18) November 11, 2018

And yeah uncle and aunties at funerals!

Oh God. To be honest, nothing that bad happened at my father's funeral but just the fact that i had to run around making sure everyone had everything while i was so shook inside was enough to make me hate the system. And then there was this group of aunty uncles…
— Usmaan (@toomuchusmaan) November 12, 2018

This is too much ” ACHAR”

And guess what…my Nana's niece asked for 'Achar' on his funeral …. exhausted!?
— Ray (@binteHA_says) November 13, 2018

The tweet of a Pakistani girl marks multiple questions on our society. Islamic culture does not permit arranging of sumptuous food on funeral occasions; In reality, it is the practice of Indian culture. It is high time that we should choose between Islamic and Indian culture.

Categories: Must read, Social Issues

Tags: Food, funeral, indian culture, islamic culture, Pakistani society

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