All the rishta debates that have ever taken place in the universe actually go all in vain, maybe some knocks sense to a very little amount of people who are actually willing to listen and are open to new discussions. But mostly the sane talk is not very a likely thing, as if anything being talked about or against the already present narrative will be a taboo or offense. Bhaijaan, YES OFFENCE!
Matlab, enuf is enuf. This Pakistani blogger Shehzeen aka Desi Wonder Woman who is currently residing in Australia said something that many people must be murmuring under their breath but didn’t dare utter it. She asked the right set of questions which now needs to be asked out loud.
All the people, men, and women; who teach all the girls to be the “wife material” need to take some time out and read this;
You know, how we often hear about concepts of ‘getting women ready for marriage’? Khana aata ho (banana, not just khana, lulz), husband ki izzat karti ho, tameezdar ho taakay inlaws accept karain. The training starts young. Guys have their ‘right criteria’ too. But the conversation for women now swings both ways – woh log bhi hain who think you should be completing a PhD in making rotis with a compass, and then there are those who push back and say it needs to be something more. Where does the conversation for the boys go? Other than having talks around them having secure jobs and steady incomes, what do they have to do, to be truly ready for marriage? We have women instructing women and we have men instructing women, on how to balance relationships and how to be model wives; when really a relationship cannot be ‘managed’ by just one person when there are TWO PEOPLE in it. Who’s working on the guys? Who’s telling them how to be good husbands? Who’s advising them on what they need to do to make sure their marriage doesn’t end up in the toilet? Larkon ko kaun larkiyon ki tarha tayyar kar raha hai shadi ke liye? Ideal damaad bana kar kaun desi boys ko plate main paish kar raha hai to the girls they’re getting ready to do dhoom dharakka with? Do we even believe in such coaching for guys? Or are we only interested in stuffing women’s brains with relationship tips and totkay, teaching them how to be the only person responsible for winning saas sassur approval and creating artificial schools of thought endorsing an imbalanced, unfair, unicorn family portrait? Desi boys se baat karna zaroori nahi? Maybe I have a blog post coming for you on this. Kya khayal hai. Parhainge agar main likhoon?
Haan je. Bataein phir? Ever encountered someone who’s teaching desi boyzez to be the right kind of man that a girl would want?
Oh, come on! If the society all together is expecting the girl to that superwoman who’s doing all the house chores just because it’s her territory and also want her to be “well-read” because phir bacho ko tutuion kon parhae ga; toh bhai sahab ap kis lea hain? If a woman can cook and study and balance work with home, she can almost do everything.
Make sense? Good boi!
