So, you are going with the flow and suddenly, unintentionally you crush on someone. It happens with everyone. You first try to understand how did you end up crushing on someone, it seems impossible, you were so sure that you’d die forever alone. Sometimes, you just end up falling for someone and, it’s not your fault; feelings have a mind of their own.

You go to all the lengths of stalking them, trying to talk to them but oh wait, they’re just not into you. It’s either they don’t text you back (you wait and feel terrible about it later but you’d never admit it), they get in a relationship (that’s when you realize you can actually kill out of jealousy), when you know that person is a player and there’s no future of  you both being together (but oh do you wish that, so badly).

Sometimes, you just need to let a crush go. The ups and downs can be too much to handle, and taking a step back can be crucial when it comes to self-care. Plus, NO ONE is worth that much trouble. Seriously. Here’s exactly how to get over them…

1. Distance Yourself 

When the bad feelings start to outweigh the good, that’s when you need to get over your crush. Are you seeing a side of them that you don’t like? Are you trying to get their attention and it’s just not happening? Maybe it gets too emotional at one point and you connect really well and there’s nothing the next time. Maybe you feel awkward and embarrassed around them and you just don’t want to deal with it anymore?

Limit the amount of time you both spend together. Even if the crush is your friend. You know something isn’t right. Crushes are like black holes, the more attention you give them, the more you get sucked into your own feelings of despair. Even online, stop stalking them and for the love of God, unfollow them, not unfriend because you aren’t running away from anything. But you don’t have to see their face the entire time on social media, you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life… lol

2.  Pay Attention To Yourself 

Get busy in yourself. You have bigger and better things to do than see when was his last seen or wait forever for his stupid message or just wait for him to notice you. Make a plan out with your friends that you been delaying on, join the gym, work harder, be social, do the stuff you been procrastinating on; it’s time to surround yourself with other opportunities to prove that there are other people in the world. If meeting new people isn’t possible, then pick up a hobby, brush on a talent, just get busy then you won’t even have time to think about the crush you had.

3. Give It Time

You can’t get over a crush in a day, it’s not that easy, that is why this guideline is here. Give yourself time, all these feelings and emotions took time to develop so it will take time to fade away. Just believe in yourself, keep moving forward. These feelings have a mind of its own and the first step is to admit it, not just admit it and get annoyed because they aren’t going away instantly, it’s not a switch, can’t switch off feelings. Forcing yourself to get over it can sometimes make it worse.

 4. Talk To Your Best friend

Or maybe just a friend you really trust and know that they won’t end up telling your crush about it or making fun of you when the crush passes by. Some people find moving on easy when they talk to their friend about it, some don’t like sharing at all because they like to keep it discreet. Talk it out with your friend and tell them that you know there’s no scope of you and your crush in the future and just need a motivational boost to move on. Also, you can tell them whenever you get annoyed by something cute your crush did, then you both can despise him together.

5- Either Tell Your Crush Everything 

If you can’t take it anymore and want to make the daring move of coming off clean with your feelings, then go for it. I personally would never do that, and that is why all my crushes crash. But if you sense that maybe that person might, could, possibly have similar feelings or would end up developing those feelings with time, then go for it, dude. All the power to you. If your crush feels the same way, yaaay, good for you.

6. Cut Ties

If you told your crush how you feel and your crush ends up crashing like mines do or none of the pointers above worked, then mission ABORT, end conversation, pack up, change planets. Hence, cut ties! It will hurt like hell, but distance yourself completely, for your own good, if you can’t move forward and are stuck in one place. You deserve to move on and forward with someone who will be as into you, as you are into them. There are 7 billion people in the world, you will find someone better, trust me.

7.  Stay Strong

The road to getting over a crush is a tough one, it will sting, it will bruise but it’s all for your own good, Move on to bigger and better things, build yourself up, one thing is for sure that you are a beautiful human being, who has depth and brilliance and you feel everything very deeply. Everything happens for a reason, if you keep knocking on a door and it doesn’t open, you won’t waste time standing there forever now, will you? He didn’t deserve you anyway.

And to think it won’t even matter in 5 years, so why make it such a big issue now? You can do this! You got this!