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After Being Physically Abused, This Girl Has A Message For All The Parents Out There

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My story is a request for all the parents.

I was very young when I started getting molested by my neighbor, and it went on until the age of 11. My mum used to send me to his house to learn ABCs from his sister, but that animal had other plans. Nonetheless, I had no idea what was happening to me as I was just a child who didn’t even know what a single kiss means. He took advantage of it and when I got a little older, I started getting extremely scared of him. I literally got buried under the blanket if my mom said his name in the house.

My mom STRICTLY asked me about him, but I was just a child. I got even more nervous and lied that he only kissed me and nothing else. After hearing that she seemed satisfied. The whole incident scarred me for life. I lost my self-esteem and became so panicky around strangers. A year after this, we shifted from that house and I got an admission in another school where another teacher started abusing me, but that’s where I met a boy who pulled me out through all of this when even my own mother didn’t know what I was going through.

He talked to the principal and protected me while no one else could. We became best friends as he was the only one who knew my darkest secrets, and we soon started loving each other, but there was another issue which was of our caste. I came from a very strict background. My mom and dad would never let me drag their name in mud if I married out of caste. Moreover, we moved to Canada over the time, and I started having a long-distance relationship.

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To all the people out there who don’t believe in true love, there was a time I would never have believed it but his patience and support literally turned my life upside down. I became the happiest girl ever until my mom realized I was in forbidden love with a guy. Even though I told her everything that how he handled me when I was abused and molested, and how he has always been my rock, but instead of at least talking to him once, she just didn’t want to let it happen.

She said the guy wanted to come to Canada through me, she even started looking for good proposals and preparing me to marry a complete stranger which I honestly couldn’t even think about. It frightened the hell out of me just thinking about that stranger, who can do anything he wants with me however he pleases, and I would be able to do nothing.

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Long story short, he (now my husband) came to Canada entirely on his own just to ask for my hand from my parents, and after a long struggle of about 5 years, we succeeded, and are loving our dream life now by the Grace of Allah.

My story should be a lesson to parents that they must be gentle with their children as much as they can. You can’t just give them life, and then let whatever bad happen to them until it’s the time for their marriage, and then you get to decide which stranger they should be married to?

I would never have gone through molestation if my mum had given me a basic education, so my request is for all the parents, please listen to your children. They are very naive, if you don’t tell them about a wrong or right touch just because it can affect their innocence, and make them think about sex or whatnot, you’re ruining their lives. At least tell them how to protect their bodies.

And to the people who are distressed about their love life, don’t give up on the love of your life. Trust me it’s very much worth it, just keep on fighting peacefully, and INSHALLAH your parents will get softer.

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