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Life is not easy for anyone – be it personally or professionally. It took me a while to understand this, but once I got this clarity, I began to appreciate life more. Did you ever find yourself thinking, “I just want to stop trying”? We often compare our ability with that of others and end up underestimating our capabilities. That was exactly what I did.

My life was a mess! I had a hard time coping with work, and I was constantly blaming myself for not being able to achieve my goals. This, in turn, led to the downfall of my relationships. I was frustrated all the time and had become an unpleasant person to be around. I began comparing myself to people who had much sorted out lives. I assumed that things are just easier for some people and that I was unfortunate enough to end up like this. After days of drowning myself in remorse, I realized that this self-directed resentment was heading nowhere.

One morning, I recollected how my mother always gave me a second chance when I was younger, despite my screw-ups. It was then I thought to myself, “If people can give others another opportunity to be better, why can’t I do it for myself?” I decided to give myself a second chance to set things right. And when I did that, I could notice a difference. I was glad I bounced back before it was too late. Continue reading to find out how I got out of difficult situations by giving myself a second chance.

Acceptance:

The first thing to do is to accept the fact that you need help. Everyone screws up and has difficult times. You can’t blame yourself for all the wrong that is happening around you. Self-loathing builds up stress and makes the situation worse. Only when you can accept that you have messed it up the first time, you’ll be able to go for a second try.

Talking to people about my issues helped me feel better. I realized that I am not the only one who goes through this. Everyone has pressures and commits mistakes, but giving up is not the solution. Failure is unavoidable –each of us has, at some point, tried something, but gave up too quickly because the results took too long to show.

Sorting Things Out:

The next thing to do was to lay things out on the table and figure out what went wrong. Unless you analyze the issue, you can’t find a solution. I carefully analyzed the areas where I was finding it difficult to work on, both in my professional and personal lives. I knew that once I concentrated on these specific areas, it would be easier to figure out why I was getting so stressed out. Hence, I went on to sort things out. And once my work was back on track, my relationships started getting better.

Approaching The Problem:

Once I figured out what held me back from giving my hundred percent, I dealt with the situation. At work, for the areas that I could not function well in, I reached out for help. I sought assistance from people who were doing better. Instead of sitting and being intimidated about others’ performance, spend your time understanding why they can do better. Asking for help will give you a better perspective on things and help you perform better.

A Fresh Start:

When you give yourself a second chance, it’s like starting afresh. After acknowledging the mistakes that were made before, every step will be a cautious one now. Being aware of the circumstances can make you more efficient in tackling the problem. In my case, my success rate had significantly improved the second time. However, make sure you don’t limit yourself. If not this time, there’s another time. It is important to understand that you keep getting better with every trial. These minor failures will only be a part of your much bigger success story.

I almost gave up, but I got back to my feet in time. Life can be very challenging sometimes, but that’s what keeps you going. When I tried again, I could see that I was gradually getting better at work and ultimately, I could achieve my targets. This gave me a confidence boost, which in turn made me happier. I was more pleasant to the people in my life and began treating them with more respect. I started acknowledging the fact that everyone goes through tough times and I didn’t want to make it worse for them.

So, go ahead and give yourself another chance –because unless you do so, you will never know what you are capable of achieving. Giving up might sound like the easy way out, but you are risking your confidence. I realized this when I was down in the dumps. I knew it couldn’t get worse, but when things started getting better the second time, I was unstoppable. It is essential that you always try again because everyone deserves a second chance. The opportunity to do better can give you results that can boost your self-esteem.