You know that moment of complete and utter confusion when you’re a newly wed bride and your mother-in-law just doesn’t get it? She acts all rude and weird around you and tries to boss you around through her beloved beta? Well, surprise surprise, you’re not the center of attention sweetheart. There are numerous articles written on how Mother-in-Laws can never be mothers to the bride, how they mistreat their daughter-in-law and get away with it and what not. There’s a billion things your mother-in-law feels just like you do.
Of course, shes not at liberty to disclose all of them to you face to face but the stern look on her face has a reason. Her beautiful smile hides tears and there’s so much more than what meets the eye. Not all mother-in-laws are bad. As astonishing as that may be for some of you, it is true. I pity everyone who finds it hard to believe that mother-in-law’s are awful because you were unfortunate enough to get the shorter end of the straw and for that, I’m deeply sorry. Not only are you missing out on the wonderful world of a daughter and mother in law relationship but you are also missing out on the chance to have a second mother.
Your mother in law is just as intimidated by you, like you are. She’s scared of losing her son to another woman. The mere thought of not having her ladla beta all to herself kills her from inside. She needs time to be okay with your presence. Her claim and authority is at risk here, her entire world is about to change, not to mention having an additional member in the family. All this happens overnight. Literally, overnight. You get married one night and then you’re at your in laws the next morning.
Everything just happens so fast that she loses track of things and gets into a state of paranoia. Wouldn’t you be, if you were in her shoes? It’s not easy accepting things. People take time. Especially the ones who are emotionally attached to the situation and who would be more attached than a mother? Forgive the poor lady if she misbehaves, for her actions can be justified. Let her rant, don’t tell her to keep quiet. She now has to adjust, being secondary to her own son and welcome a new lady. A lady that will be the talk of town for the next few weeks.
After all, she is only a mother. Her intentions are pure, infact, she is pure of heart. You’d do the same if it were your mother. You’d forgive her actions if she was the woman who carried you in her womb, why forsake another woman who’s carried someone else in their womb, that someone being your husband?
