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All those who think your Best Friend has changed after Marriage Need to Read This

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In Pakistan, when a girl gets married, she loses her friends (yes, I know it’s a worldwide phenomenon). But here, we are with our Pakistani twist when a girl gets married she has a lot of friends or few, with whom she is pretty close. Even in some cases, lifelong friendship has resulted in a bond stronger than sisters. So, today, I am going to tell you about a group of friends (educated and independent girls) who got married one after the other.

So, there was a group of four friends. They were together since college days, got admission in the same university, and after four years, when they graduated, they become more than just friends or say typical BFFs. Gradually, one by one, their journey to married life began. After the first group member, she realized that after marriage, life changes completely. Priorities change and your BFF becomes a friend and then a total stranger to you.

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No matter how hard the other friends tried to be in touch with each other, a lot of things started to interrupt the communication. I know, now it seems hard with inexpensive SMS packages, WhatsApp and Viber, how hard it could it be to stay in touch? But if we go back, five or six years back, it was NOT easy. And for many girls, they get to experience a new set of restrictions after marriage. Sometimes they are ever restricted to use their own phones or meet their friends. Because society thinks that if a girl keeps her friends very close after marriage, they might not be able to look after their new family (or their friends might damage their home sweet home).

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To be honest, friends separating after marriage is very normal, there is no need to force them to avoid their girlfriends because every relationship has their corium to run. And friends or BFFs are to understand and give space to each other. But still, it has its own relationship issues. Because when a friend gets married and the other is still single, they feel left out or a BFF simply nails it by saying, “it’s like mai tum ko talaq de raee ho”. Point is, it’s a very natural feeling and many of you can relate to it and the main reason for the left-out feeling is because of the relationship dynamics. We can be BFF all the time and will always be, but our wingman has to be our husband.

Someone we can trust and pour our hearts to (yes understanding and finely raised boys are a reality). What if we are investing time in our new relationship and the same time, our unmarried friends become needy? What should we do? Nothing. Except, prepare for an attack of how we have changed since we got married, who won’t let us spend time with BFF? Sometimes, it’s not the reality. We have not been forced but our husband should be our priority. Sometimes, the problem arises when a spouse doesn’t like the BFF. This type of jealousy is very normal because anybody who is so close to your romantic interest might be problematic for you. (Let’s face it, girls, we too, don’t like our husband’s BFF or ‘second wives’ we often call them)

Source: The Frontier Post.com

But apart from all these issues, we all need friends in our lives even after marriage. Although not in our honeymoon period, surely afterward. Friends after marriage are underrated, and I am telling you it’s wrong. Our different friends are different worlds to us. Some of our friends represent the philosopher in us, some represent the sane side of us, and some represent the wildest side of us. Having them around doesn’t mean we are going to hang out with them each and every weekend, sneaking out on our sleeping kids. Certainly not.

Apart from being super busy, if we sneak out then what? Is it a crime, now? No. We can be friends on our Facebook and WhatsApp, too. Sending each other voice notes even when we are not able to call each other in a while (seriously, when I call it’s usually after three to four months). Friendship is all about not putting conditions and demands on each other. But sometimes, we do and it’s because being a BFF means that a single person is your father, mother sibling, and guru. (No. Not the minion guru).

Source: Kaieteur News

But friendships are important because when the world falls around you, they help you in putting the pieces together. Or when life gives you lemons, they help you make lemonade. And when you forget how fun and wild you used to be, they remind you of the real you. Always remember, real friends might not be around, but when you need them, they will be there with their best wishes. They are your knights in shining armor. They are the nearest thing other than family. They have seen you happy, sad ecstatic, hopeless, in depression and anxiety. You never pretend to be a different person in front of them.

So, cherish your friendships along with your family, because they are the mere memory of who we used to be. And, it’s not possible. I know a few kitty gangs who are together after 60 years of age. Every now and then throwing parties and gathering together telling the tales of how they used to be so much fun, pretty and naughty, making each other whole after these meetings and fighting their old age together.

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