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With all due respect.

Dear Men,

If you loved her genuinely, if you ever build those special and deep connections with her, then she’s your responsibility. If her respect ever mattered to you the most, it must matter to you till the end.

When a girl gives her soul & heart to you and is ready to compromise everything for you then it is your responsibility to make it happen throughout your life, it’s your responsibility to make it halaal in all possible ways, it’s your responsibility to stand with her, it’s your responsibility to make through every bad situation for making her your wife because if she was everything to you once. If she was the one you cared for, then how can you let her go? No doubt that situations are always different, but your dignity and loyalty to her should never vary because you know she has given you her life. It’s in your hands that whether you’ll let her live or die.

But there comes a point when you always decide to be a good son. In the end, all the responsibilities towards her vanish in the air. You try to be a good man who obeys his parents, who can just let go his every commitment he made, who can give up on that soul who gave him everything, her soul, her life, her dignity. But guess what? He wants to be a good man for everyone else but her.

Men, don’t forget that the girl who was ready for all the compromises, who already lived and planned a complete life with you because you treated her like your wife in all that time you people were together, it was like you owned her, you were authoritative, you acted like her protector & maintainer, you ordered her, you loved her, you scolded her, you gave most of your time to her. And she loved every bit of you, she loved you with all the good and bad qualities, all she wanted was to be with you all her life. But you refuse to stand with her when it’s time to choose between her and others.

Parents are the most important people in our life and no man should go against them, but a man who is stable enough to take his decisions can do his best to convince them, no parents are so rigid because, in the end, they want their children to be happy. So, you can do every bit of your effort to convince them because you have responsibilities on both sides, you’re committed to someone with all your heart and soul. You stand at a point from where there is no going back or moving on without it, not everyone is strong enough to move on.

Especially when you two are so involved with each other that every second there’s a flood of memories and moments that keeps roaming around your mind. How can you move on? How can you spend life with anyone else that you planned with her if genuinely you loved her if you were into her honestly as you ever mentioned to her? How is that possible for you?

Don’t you think even if you move on, it would be unfair for that someone because you’ve had her in your heart all this time and you can never let her out of it? Neither she can let you out of her mind and heart. She gave a lifetime to you as she decided to be yours when she’s the one ready to give her lifelong loyalty to you even if you leave her. So, with all those memories, moments, love, feelings how can you think to be with anyone else?

Believe me, man, if you ever loved her with all those deep feelings as you show her in all the timing you people were one. You can not even think of letting her go, you’d give your lifetime loyalty to her, you’ll make sure that things work out, you’ll convince every person in this whole wide world even if it’s family or society or community, you’d do everything to make her your wife, to make all those imaginations a reality, to make your relationship halaal because you have to face ALLAH after all this.

Indeed, you should respect your parents & their decisions but it is nowhere written or it is nowhere said by ALLAH that you’re allowed to break a pure heart that loves you for everything, you’re never allowed to break her to the extent that she’ll never be able to go back to what she used to be, that girl who made herself for you according to you. She can never go back to her reality, she can never let anyone enter her life again, she can never trust people again because you broke her heart to the extent that ALLAH would never be happy with what you did to that genuine heart, who wished for nothing else than for you to be her husband, she prayed all night and begged you to take every possible step.

But you tried to be a good son only, forgetting your all other deeds, responsibilities, and commitments. Indeed, you both will be questioned for being in a haraam relationship all that time but that man will have to face & answer all those extra questions that will be raised to him that why did he break someone so badly, why did he bring her to that extent when he knew he is going to be coward, when he knew he’d not be able to stand with her then why did he make so many promises and commitments?

Yes, he’ll be answerable to all the questions, for all the hearts that will be broken because of him in life. Maybe that man can go through this life happily but he’ll be answerable after this life. When he will be informed about that girl, that she was never happy after him…