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I have been asked by a lot of friends and relatives of mine that why did I get married to a maulvi? How is he by nature? Is he angry? Did he force you to cover your head? Will you do niqaab? Did he restrict you from this and that? Is he rude?And to all these questions, I don’t answer them usually or just pass a smile.

I want to share something with all my sisters that my husband is a doctor by profession. He is an anesthesia specialist in one of the renowned hospital in Makkah. He is a gem by heart, he is a soft-spoken person and full of confidence. He takes care of me more than I could’ve ever imagined. When he comes back from the hospital, he does all his home chores from dusting to cooking and tea making.

When he gets done with that, he washes his clothes and studies for his FCAI. However, I have told him that I would love to all the chores once I will be there, living with him in Saudia and in response, he clearly refused and said that “I brought you in my life as a wife, not as a maid”.

When he was here in Pakistan, we both did our home chores together. He has never forced me to do hijaab or niqaab, and he told me very clearly that don’t do hijab if you don’t want to. He allows me to dress in western clothes (jeans and skirts). According to him, if he can wear jeans why not his wife? My husband has also allowed me to continue my MS.

He told me to learn driving before I came to Saudia as they are now allowing females to drive. He allowed me to talk to my male friends, he never restricted me from anything. He treats me like Holy Prophet (PBUH) treated his wives. He follows our Holy Prophet (PBUH) in every aspect of his life.

We pray together, discuss 2-3  Quranic verses on a daily basis, we tell each other about new Islamic books as well as our medical related books. We discuss his patients and their medicines as I’m a pharmacist by profession. In this way, we built our trust, understanding, love, and care in our relationship.

My message to all is that not every maulvi is ‘Khabti’ (dictator, strict, mad, or whatever you want to say). They also have a heart and feelings. My husband knows to maintain that balance in our lives by following deen and duniya, both. I can say that I am a proud wife of the perfect practicing maulvi *giggles*. Never judge a person because of his beard or hijab, if you do, you’ll have no time to love them! May Allah bless every couple out there and protect them from the evil eye. Ameen.