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“Shaadi Sirf Larkay Se Nahi Poora Khandan Se Hoti Hai” – Here’s What I Decided To Do When I Heard This For The First Time

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As we grow up in a South Asian family, we often get to listen to this phrase “AADHI SHADI LARKEY SE AUR AADHI US K GHAR WALO SE HOTI HAI”. I always get this sentence as on literal way by thinking that it is about living arrangements, like if many of the girls end up in a joint family system (it doesn’t include living with parents).

But, as I grew up and the time of marriage was near, I had to choose my life partner and do my bit of research on how to find a good, suitable boy and what would be my practical needs before falling in love (yes, I live in Pakistan and I believe falling in love is necessary before SHADI). So, I tried to go an extra mile and started reading about it on the internet (yes, my authentic source of information). Few things I discovered on what this phrase actually means to our parents and what it originally means or say originated from.

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So, when I searched the internet, there was nothing except Twinkle Khanna (yes former actress and wife of AKSHAY KUMAR). But in reality, she is a queen of satire. So, she put some light on this matter on how she chose Akshay Kumar as her husband-to-be when things got serious between them. And, I am not lying, her list is to drool for and reading that, I wonder why my parents didn’t do that and produced designer babies, instead of us.

Like one of my siblings is a genius in maths, whereas, others are zero. Three of us are tall and one is not. But intellectually, the four of us are fine because my mother was well-educated (a half century before she did her bachelors) and father was an engineer. So, Twinkle Khanna made a list of height diseases and age for the average of everything. For example, the age of her husband-to-be and his family, their average height, average diseases they have in common. She compared all the pros and cons of getting married to him! Unreal, right?

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It all comes down to the point whether or not he has good genes. Genes play an important role in everybody’s life. If circumstances support us and we are gifted with a good environment; our good genes can make miracles happen. Literally! Like yeah, dreams come true, designer babies. Please don’t pretend as if you don’t want your babies to be geniuses and beautiful even if we, as parents, are not.

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When I was done with this genetic list, I wanted to apply it to a few suiters by trying to extract some information about their family and to be honest, the hardest task was to ask about the death age, because it sounds like nana jaan passed away at 45 a few months ago (age hiding cliché). When the grandson is nearly hitting thirties and nobody seemed to age more than the fifties in many families. So, I moved on to the height saga and I got to find out that it’s hard to find that too. But I got lucky with the diseases our nation loves to talk about and how severe they are and the detailed medications and totkas. Oh dear, God, help me! I have to stop people from doing this. And in my quest for the genetically fine guy, I also got to know that the government has a law for leukemia testing before marriage, but who even follows that? In my point of view, it would help save many marriages and if before marriage and to check impotency of men as well; should also be important. Because nowadays, this problem is on the rise. In the past and even now, it has ruined many marriages and a woman can’t raise a voice because it is considered a shame if she complains about it.

My point in writing this piece is why not we, women, have the right to know about a guy that we are going to marry by simply asking why you didn’t happen to get admission in university which had higher grades closing and why are you not at some high position after half of your life doing jobs or business. Or, what is your money-saving strategy, or money generating strategy in the future? What’s your emotional E.Q . because in the future, you are going to be my husband and your problem-solving strategies bother me in real. So, girls next time before falling head over heels for a guy, consider all of these above-mentioned tips. And make sure you get married to your Prince Harry who will treat you like his princess and makes his family put down some real royal protocol for you!

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