At the time of marriage, the bride and groom are told the most beautiful thing and one of those include they being together with each other forever. But if their forever ends a bit too soon for the society to even comprehend it properly as per their defined standards and laws? The psychology of this nation works in a peculiar way where not getting a divorce is the goal for every couple in this entire world.
No matter where we go, the mind always on red alert when we hear the evil word of “divorce” and associate it with the wife being at fault. Some days back, Mathira announced that she is getting divorced from her husband Flint J, which resulted in society blaming her yet another time after she put up a post on post-divorce problems.
When it comes to her personal life, she always chooses to keep it a secret even her wedding was a secret affair that she later disclosed when people speculated of having someone special in her life. Although it didn’t work out for her, now she is facing the same issue that any normal woman would face – being blamed for not being good enough for her husband which lead him to seek another woman.
Mathira with her son, Aahil – Here’s what she had to say:
I tried to keep this marriage I tried my best to hold on! It was not easy and yes people will judge me in the society because the woman is always blamed and labelled lol ok ! so yes the divorce is done the hell I am going through and went through only I know and I don't need anyone to know it! I was supporting my self and my child this whole time and will carry on doing that I loved you and still do ! yes even if you do not love me.sometime time even if we die we can't be enough for the loved one I ran back every-time because I wanted us Flint J ! You wanted some thing else ! Have a blessed life no more calls no more questions no more asking for time or love ! I am Mathira so yes I will be accused and blamed but if I have to take all the blames for you then okay ! Will do with a smile I only loved you and still will but this time from a distance I am a looser yes because I prefer you being a winner! I hope you have a blessed relationship and lovely life ! My absence won't be missed I know . The last public I LOVE YOU ME AND AAHIL WONT EVER come back in your life ROCK STAR YOU HAVE EVERYTHING YOU WANT ! Atleast one of us is living the dream and having a good time ! You say I was a dark phase of your life okay ! Allah is der I wish you light now My son is my life line and that's all ! I don't trust the word love any more! You won! I lost publicly ! #flintj I always said I can't live with out you but today U cut and left me no option now I have too! There is no going back Congratulations for you Freedom Flint j single life back in action!
The dilemma of society judging a woman over her past no matter where she reaches in the future would always be the saddest part. She also mentioned that now she won’t be asking her husband for more love and time which indicated her importance in the suffocating marriage. Plus in the end, she congratulated her former husband for getting back his long-lost freedom.
It’s disappointing to see how people around you can turn their minds and hearts blind to the reasons that persuaded a woman to make such a decision. Though after all the struggle and sufferings, she had come up as a warrior who is prepared for whatever is coming her way, along with protecting her son and providing him with the best things possible by playing the role of both parents.
Cold sharp words from someone who you love hurts but one side of my life is that all the love I had for you is now for Aahil you know Minni You(aahil) his my partner and my reason to live ! blames games won't ever stop so it's simple ! You can put the blame on me ! May Allah give what you want and you already mashallah have what you wanted in life ! I realised I ain't rich I'm a below average woman but I have my son to look forward to!teach him how to make a home and not break one because he is gonna be a dad too and some beautiful girl's husband too! I will correct what's suppose to me done ! I honestly wish you the best Mr X ! Pyar kartii hoon I dint leave you, you did I wanted to grow old with you! The damage is done ! It's okay as long as your happy trust me I'm happy because can't unlove you sad truth of my life ! Lol forcing my boy to smile ?he is mashallah a hand full!
More power to all the single women who have been looking after their children and themselves in order to secure a bright future for both of them Don’t care about people because they would only throw the stone of criticism at you but only you know how difficult this decision was for you. It takes a lot of courage for any woman to say no to and choose to quit a relationship that meant the world for her. If you liked the article then like, share and comment down below to give us your feedback.