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I belong to a very small town in Punjab. Due to the family pressure, I got married at the age of 19 even when I wanted to study and wanted to do something in my life. According to them, the guy is handsome and earns decently because of his government job. So they got me married. Then the real struggle of life started when I had to face the orders, commands, and cruelties of a Govt. employee at home. He was so used to give orders to others in the office that he forgot that this was his home and I was his wife. I spent so many days in washroom just to hide from him.
Every evening when I used to hear the doorbell, only one thought used to come in my mind “Will I be able to see tomorrow?” After suffering for one year, I finally decided to call my parents and tell everything. To my surprise, I heard back from them that once you get married then only death can get you apart. That day, my faith in God collapsed. I broke into tears when I came to know that I am the second wife of my husband and my parents knew it from the beginning. They did not bother to tell me. Well, I had no hopes in anything after that. I spent three more months like that getting beaten up every night then one day I decided to do something about it.
I applied for a job in Gurgaon and came here in 2012 to start my career. Every day’s fear turned into every weekend’s fear when I had to face my husband. One day, when my boss saw the scars on my face which I wasn’t able to hide through makeup, she asked about it but I was too afraid to tell anybody anything. She did not even know that I was married. It became every Monday’s story.
She used to see my scars and ask. Then one day I broke in front of her. She was surprised to hear the truth behind this ever smiling face. She gave me a lawyer’s card and asked me to talk to him if I want a better life. I was not strong enough to take any stand. I was afraid as no one was with me. I thought for a month and then decided to call the lawyer.
After spending hours in that lawyer’s chamber and understanding everything, I filed a case against my husband. His family never bothered about anything. Maybe they knew what I faced with their son but they never interrupted or stopped him. My family stopped talking to me when they got to know about my decision. I fought the court case for years and then finally after years I got the decision in my favor and got free from him and that misery. But I only got freedom from him and not this society. I am yet to face this society. It doesn’t accept a divorced girl who is away from her family.
Till now, I am afraid to tell anyone that I am divorced because I tried telling it to some of my friends in past and they left me. I think they shouldn’t call themselves educated, they are illiterates who cannot understand life’s crisis and such situations. But I am done now. I do not want to hide anymore. I do not want to see my past as a weakness.
Everyone has a past and that was mine. I suffered, fought and stood up without any support without my family and I haven’t achieved any milestone yet but I am proud of myself I am certified Bhangra trainer and fitness professional working with the reputed brand.
Today, I have my identity and I deserve a better life and better people around me. If people want to leave me after knowing this truth, they can do it right away. The one who matters and the one for whom I matter will stay. I will also stay and will stay stronger than ever. Nothing can stop me ,I am unstoppable . #WhatsStoppingYou #Unstoppable
