It will be meaningless to explain how girls spend their Eid. Ammi is there to press ALL the mardana clothes and to cook delicious sheer qorma, nothing to worry about getting up early because ‘chaand raat jaagti rahen hain’, your brothers are there to help you from typical attacks of typical relatives, your sister is your partner in crime when it comes to the distribution of Eidi given by chachaas and maamus.
But after getting married, all these happy and lively moments turns into ‘Maike Ki Eidi’ in which your mother tries to put every single thing you ever wished for. Since a lot of newlyweds are going to witness their first Eid with in-laws, here I want to share my experience as a sample for them so that they could prepare themselves accordingly.
1. Take Proper Sleep On Chaand Raat
We all are aware of the crowds at salons for mehndi and other stuff so be smart and take your appointment in afternoon for saving time. In this way, you could get the time to sleep properly and wake up early to help your mother-in-law in the kitchen.
2. Be A Helping Hand Of Your Mother-in-Law
Eid is all about food and every girl knows that how much load of work a mother has to face. No matter how bad or perfect cook you are, just be there in the kitchen with your mother-in-law. Maybe she will ask you to go and take rest but keep in mind that she needs help. If your sister-in-law is already helping your saas, then help her in managing the food table. These little gestures will show your concern to them and I swear they will appreciate it on a very high note.
3. Don’t Forget To Wear Your Eid Dress!
In all this work, don’t neglect your Eid preps. It’s hot throughout the country which is why most of the girls have chosen lawn for Eid. So, it won’t be difficult to manage your work and dress at the same time. Put on your dress, apply light makeup, jewelry is obviously a must and don’t forget to tie your hair in a bun or simple braid while working in the kitchen.
4. Give Some Time To Your Husband
Mostly, men take a nap after or before lunch which is a mandatory thing for them. But yes, apart from this habit, your hubby wants to spend his first Eid with his wife so manage your time according to that *blushing*.
5. Be A Part Of Family Get-Togethers
Instead of behaving like an alien in the family gatherings of your in-laws, start taking part in the family gossip. (Well, we all know how to do that). Be with them wholeheartedly, discuss social issues, trending fashion and what not!
However, there is a low-minded concept prevailed in our society according to which the newlywed bahu is burdened with work on Eid. Girls! Be calm and relax. Be yourself and don’t be afraid, it is not scary all the times. May Allah give every girl a supportive and understanding susraal, not the self-created dreaded one!