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Marriage is a beautiful imagination and a pleasant dream for a young girl. It is so pleasant that none could even think of a minor error in it. Being a young professional at the age of 27, I stand here in this world where marriage used to be as desirable as it would be for any girl of my age, but looking at the harsh reality, my perspectives changed. Not for the fact that I had to adjust and also certainly not for the fact that I had to give up my own opinions, but for the fact that I am considered to be a candidate for selection for my profession and a good job profile.
In my view, I noticed that I was not only the victim of this dear selection, but the majority of my friends sail in the same boat. How lucky we are??? We finally found our prince charming so what if we had to compromise on their looks? So what if we had to compromise on their education and qualification?
I have finally found my Mr. Perfect who is not having a good income at the moment but as my father in law rightly said, both of them will earn together after all they are life partners. Also that she shouldn’t be a dependent on him. And to this Mr. Prince, he is charming, short tempered and has some stubborn habits. So true when my mother in law says that old habits die hard. I am so delighted that I found my Mr. Charming. His siblings do tell me that he is abusive at times but that’s ok. And that is what my mother says that is how men are.
Where in this world do you still think it is correct?? Every human on this planet deserves to be happy. I agree to fewer facts but what I do not agree is to ruin others and building your own happiness. We select someone on the basis of their achievements so our pampered child could live happily ever after, but it does not work this way. “What you sow, so shall you reap” as our ancestors say it still holds good in this regard. What examples are we setting for our grandchildren? Just because the lady had been working at her parents’ place doesn’t mean it has become a compulsion on her to work.
Digging more into it, I found out that some merit based selections also play a role where girls were more focused on their studies, score higher in the entry tests whereas boys being lesser privileged, just get enrolled, leaving no other option but to get into technical courses. In my opinion and for the betterment of our society, this system needs to get a little amended where the quota of boys should be raised in ratio to females. The better the jobs, the lesser will be this mind set of having a working and financially helping life partners.
Women need to understand that every sale and every new trend don’t need to be followed, reducing expenses can make life easier and less materialistic. If we go into a flashback in ages where men were the woodcutters and women were the food makers. Life must have been simple and beautiful. A woman can work with dedication and devotion but marrying someone for the sake of it is a betrayal in my sight.
