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Being a woman should be the blessing as God has created us but apart from the culture, we humans made it difficult for women to survive. I am not claiming that life is easy for men, no it is not. To cut it short, women in Pakistan have always been treated differently, often on the name of religion, many times in the name of culture, and if something has left of them we torture them in the name of society and their own family.
It doesn’t happen in a positive way or should I say, usually in a negative way. As a society, we don’t love or respect them. For us, they are mere species to regenerate or breed. Even we women cannot see our species to grow or prosper. I know, I know you guys must be like it’s not like that but if we come outside of our nutshell, we would realize that it might be happening in our very own homes, being in denial is another thing. But its happening all under our nose.
You must be thinking that she’s back with all the complaints, or might be BECHARI has the sad life. But believe me, if you all come out of denial, you can see how we stress women in our lives. We press her so hard from childhood to be a perfect bahoo or wife in future like she has no other reason to born. No greater achievement than getting her married as soon as possible and wash our hands out of any responsibility, social responsibility of course.
Whatever she does or doesn’t do might be the reason for her shame in the future as a wife or BAHOO. But by doing this, what we are usually doing is washing off her of her own identity. With time, she has loses herself in life and that’s when reality hits. To be honest, women who are raised so self-assured and have self-esteem and self-value also get married. And what happens is that our society doesn’t like a wife who is independent. That surely doesn’t mean ‘financially’ but psychologically too.
It’s okay until then but all the drama starts when they decide to go for their cure. You must be thinking she has gone gaga because who has issues going to doctor and yes you are right nobody has issues in going to doctor until one decided to go to the psychotherapist. Going to the psychotherapist is such a TABOO that if anybody knows it or sees you going to them you are doomed for good. Again, society and a person who is already fucked up to have to endure all people telling them that there is nothing like depression or anxiety and it’s just that they are being NASHUKREY to ALLAH KI NAIMATEN. I have seen a meme about it that a person telling a family how they are having depression and the answer they get is there is nothing like depression and when they tell they have seen ghost all believe at once.
My point is when a person decides to go to a therapist, it doesn’t mean they have gone mad permanently or might have gone nuts for real and messed up their life that they feel overwhelmed. Or, they have lost themselves for real and they need help. To be honest, there are times in life when no friend no relationship can take you out of the wreck of life you have made, and you need professional help. You need someone who can guide you and tells you that thinking about yourself is not selfish. And yes, you can get your shit together.
You must be thinking oh, this happens with all of us, what’s so special about being women and going to the therapist? But yes, when a woman hits the door, our society takes it as she if she’s nuts and has lost it. So, when women avoid going to get a fix to the therapist that’s what happens. They raise emotionally insecure, vengeful and angry kids, emotionally unstable and they place all their hatred low self-esteem low self-image in them and what happens next is a threatened institution of marriage, no more a stable family system.
So, why not go for the right decision when needed rather than living with all the suffering? It’s like a princess changing into a monster who can’t see any good in her because with the course of time, society told her so. Our society is so immune to live with the women who are afraid of everything anything that what our society would say if we stopped being afraid of them if we take care of ourselves too. What happens if we stop listening to petty norms and decide for ourselves? Their MONTER of LOG KIA KAHENGEY will be ruined. So, why not stand up for our selves and seek help whenever needed and become what our true potential is rather than groveling over men’s feet?
