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Here’s Why a Woman is Other Woman’s Worst Enemy and It Is Truly Disappointing

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Last night, I was watching a drama serial on a local TV channel. The story of the soap revolves around a girl who got divorced before her rukhsati (wedding day). Later she gets married to a wealthy man who has just lost his wife to cancer and has three kids. Two of his kids, being older in age, refuse to accept her as stepmother and plot against her.

Ultimately, her husband sends her back to her parents’ house and she is on the verge of getting divorced once again. Now, she gets bombarded with offensive phrases from every other woman who is somehow connected to her whether it’s her aunt (khala), her employer (who is a woman), the other aunties of the area and her own sister and mother. It would not be wrong to say that women around her play a significant role in defaming her in her surroundings.

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This is where it hit me yet again, how messed up we are as a society where every woman is the enemy of other women. Though it is the trend of our dramas to portray the protagonist as a damsel in distress at times social realities are portrayed in family soaps and this is the case here as well.

It is said that a culture that respects women is a step towards a society free of violence but alas in Pakistani culture it is opposite! Here, a woman seeks the revenge of her tears through the tears of another woman. She feels a sense of satisfaction if she witnesses another woman going through the same oppression that she has been through. She would not step up and protect another woman from the same injustice that she was once a victim of. In fact, she would go ahead to justify how every woman has to go through it in life in order to become a so-called successful homemaker.

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While the world was celebrating international women’s day on March 8, with full enthusiasm, I was wondering over the harsh reality of my culture and society where women are envious of the happiness and joy of other women or you can say that here the failure of a woman is the success of another woman. For instance, if a woman has suffered abuse at the hands of his husband, she feels quenched instead of embarrassed when she witnesses her own son abusing his wife. Such is the dismal state of this society.

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Whether at home or at the workplace, it seems women are determined to stand against each other. They are mocking each other behind their backs, slandering and gossiping about each other and making a constant effort to stab each other with an invisible dagger.

On this women’s day, a special Aurat March was organized in Karachi (Frere Hall), Lahore (Lyton Road) and Islamabad (Press Club) which was a first of its kind in Pakistan. In a nutshell, the agenda of this march was to stand up against violation of women rights, gender discrimination and to seek women empowerment.

Though the measure is commendable and is a great step towards progressive society it raised a few questions in my mind: Are women of this society ready to give space to other women to claim their rights? Are they ready to support each other in the persecution they share? Are they ready to stand up for each other?

Are they inclined to help victims of the abuse they have suffered themselves? Are they really united in their fight against this misogynistic culture? Have they really joined hands to crush the patriarchal systems? No, certainly not.

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