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I’ve always wanted to put these thoughts into words but couldn’t. Today I helped myself to do so. It’s a request to everyone that read it for once and feel free to share what you think in this regard (especially women).

So what I’m trying to correct today is the wrong perception of words “Feminism” & “Equality” these days, which are destroying our society one way or the other.

Women say that equality is in Islam and mentioned in Quran, do you know the word equality in Quran refers to *JUSTICE*. Do not misinterpret the meaning, please.

‘And the male is not like female’ – [Al ‘Imraan 3:36]

Which also means vice versa. So when it is clearly mentioned that the male and female are not alike, then why do you even consider them equal or same in any way? Islam does not regard men and women equal in matters where regarding them equal would result in INJUSTICE to any of them. So, the first thing we need to make clear in our mind is that men and women are not equal; they are not same.

There is a command for women to wear clothes that are different from those worn by men, because of the differences in the way each sex is tempted by the other. But what things do women consider in the name of feminism, these days? Wear whatever you like, take dupatta or not, wear sleeveless, go out wandering around and so on… Then what happens when someone raises a finger towards them?

They try to defend the argument by the word equality ?? Khudaraa mard aur aurat mein farq ALLAH ne rakha hai. Yeh nae kaha jaaskta k jis libaas mein mard ghoomay us libaas me aurat bhi kyun ke it’s about equality. Why don’t you grow a beard because a man grows it?? This is not equality women. You wear what is designed for you, not for men. You follow what Quran commands for women; not for men. There is a difference, huge difference. Stop misunderstanding and think about it.

I don’t think it’s wrong for a woman if she’s working only at home, cooking and raising her children well. Or if she’s working outside as well and looking equally towards her family. But what has the new perception become? Women have the freedom to work outside and they have no concern about what is going behind with her children and family.

Today, in the name of feminism, women are so busy to prove themselves that they’ve forgotten what they are meant for. If you can manage things equally, then that’s your quality, that’s your good part for which you’ll be rewarded for. But leaving everything and just trying to be a successful feminist will give you what here and after death?

Women have taken this feminism in a very wrong way which needs to be corrected because it’s destroying our society. I’m a teacher and I’ve seen many cases with my eyes where children are neglected and why? Because their mother is working and they don’t have time for home. When they come and talk, they’ll try to show themselves well mannered and well-dressed but when you look at their children they are totally opposite. It’s not the children’s mistake, it’s the mother’s or the women who make the home and groom her child. Try to understand your basic responsibilities first, and then go ahead to other things.

I really appreciate women who are successful and managing almost everything, because that is what feminism is, that you try to be a good woman with all the good deeds and qualities. You don’t compare yourself to a man, you don’t do it in any competition of superiority, but you do it for your own sake.

I would also like to mention if a man is wrong, let him be. It’s in his book of deeds, not yours. Don’t try to do the same wrong things in the name of equality!!

Women who are working, they also have a responsibility to raise their children, but it’s not JUST the mother’s job. We’ve made this long list of responsibilities which are to be handed out to every girl when she gets married.

1. She is the one responsible for children’s downfall. But when the same kids excel at something, their fathers and other relatives take all the credit.
2. Women belong to the kitchen. They don’t. We consider men lending a hand in the kitchen as a taboo. Holy Prophet PBUH used to make his own meals along with his wife’s sometimes. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.
3. Women are not bound to take care of their in laws. She has the right to deny this as well. This is just a good deed if the wife wants to take care of her in laws as well.

Another similar point:

‘Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because ALLAH has made one of them to excel the other and because they spend (to support them) for their means’. – [Al-Nisa’ 4:34]

Read above and then think what we are doing and where are we going? We consider it a sin or an insult to listen to our fathers/spouses, we think, why do they always stop us from certain things? Why are we’re being restricted from certain things? And even if they are right, we consider it as an insult to listen and obey them. Reason? *Because I’m a feminist, I’m equal to man. Why am I supposed to obey or listen to a man? I will do what I think is right, I have freedom, I have liberty*.

Also, feminism is supposed to take place like in urban areas. And those families who think women are meant to do everything for their children as well as every single person living in that house whether it’s saas, sasur or nand, where people think women are brought to home as a maid.

Feminism is for those women, not for those who are living a great life already and getting all the rights they should. No offense to anyone but these days girls of big universities like IBA, LUMs and so on, are very fond of feminism and completely ignoring the real meaning of it.

Please try to correct the meaning and perception of these two words “Feminism” and “Equality”. The misconceptions are leading our society towards destruction. Khudaraa correct your thinking, correct your perception. The topic is too vast, endless arguments and facts can be mentioned but this is just a start of a thought.

In the end, I’d like to mention something for men as well, most of them are misunderstanding all the women these days just because of the perception of some. Not everyone thinks the same way, not every perception is wrong, not every soul is same as other. So just try to understand the right side of everything.

Problem is the extremism of either way. Try to find and follow the way of justice. If anyone agrees with some of my thoughts I’ve shared today, spread the right thing. Share the thought. And if you believe any of the things I’ve mentioned are wrong, put your arguments because I’d love to correct myself if I’m wrong to any extent.

With a hope that it might correct the perception of few, no matter a one or two maybe but that’s what I felt the right thing to do. Jazak’ALLAH