In a marriage, divorce is one alarming situation indeed but it is something which cannot be ignored and shouldn’t be ridiculed. In a Pakistani society, getting a divorce means a stamp that goes on a woman and she’s character assassinated from that point onwards. She will be regarded as someone who “couldn’t save her home.” And for her, giving another shot at marriage is the most difficult thing unless she has a supportive family who doesn’t care about the blames of the society regarding her.
Speaking of which, we recently came across a tweet of this brave, young guy who opened up about his mother, who has been divorced for 13 years who has been trying to get remarried after all the sacrifices she has done for her sons. Faisal made a lot of sense in his tweet as he talked about how hard it is for a woman being divorced in the Asian communities.
Here’s what Faisal (the son), tweeted:
one thing that’s hard, especially in Asian communities, is a divorced woman remarrying. my mums been divorced for 13 years and she’s trying to get remarried after sacrificing her life for us and her family back home and completely abandaoned her, her parents said they don’t..
— faisal (@thesmilingakh) May 31, 2018
What is saddening is that Faisal mentioned that his mother’s parents/family have chosen to cut off all ties with them after she wished to remarry…
want anything to do with her. my mother who sacrificed her entire youth, after being forced into a marriage and raising us boys, all she wants is happiness. and i’ll 100% support her, islamically and mentally she has every right but I still don’t get this judgement from other..
— faisal (@thesmilingakh) May 31, 2018
He further gave Islamic references and how our Prophet Muhammad PBUH, too, married a divorcee…
Asian families, both here in England and Pakistan, it’s so tough. It’s unfair, the prophet pbuh married divorced women, my mother is 46, she’s a grown person, she has grown kids of her own, she has every right to do what she wants, and it’s horrible our family is emotional..
— faisal (@thesmilingakh) May 31, 2018
Guys like him… His mother must be so proud of him!
blackmailing her for wanting to be happy. emotionally making her feel compelled to not follow what decision she wants. it’s heartbreaking, even for me as the eldest son, it’s difficult, i want to support her but even for me as a child it’s difficult, when a parent gets..
— faisal (@thesmilingakh) May 31, 2018
We’re with you, Faisal!
remarried because there’s this fear she’ll get hurt again, this fear of my whole life changing, i’m 20, I’ve become used to it just being us and my mother and letting someone in right now is just hard, I don’t know, I just wanted to vent..
— faisal (@thesmilingakh) May 31, 2018
Let’s help him out here, guys!
if anyone has got a step parent or has a parent that’s been remarried then let me know, i’m Just confused and lost and mentally it’s really difficult and it’s just getting to me along with everything else
— faisal (@thesmilingakh) May 31, 2018
It’s high time our society understands the impact of forced marriages at a young age and how it affects not just the couple, but the entire family. It’s saddening to see how parents only wish to see their daughters to get married yet not think about their happiness after they get married. Nevertheless, it’s amazing to see how a 20-year-old boy understands his mother’s situation so deeply. Truly shows the upbringing of a single mother. She has taught them well. Much respect!
Let’s hope one day our society thinks otherwise and we come across fewer cases of failed marriages.
