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To create a safer society, there are different factors that are looked upon and one of the main considerations that counts the most is the dress code, but dress code only for women. Why isn’t it for men too?

In Pakistan, every day we hear about the restriction on the dressing of girls in institutions and other social sectors. I mean, why is every restriction imposed on women? A dress code for women will never create a safer society. As restricting women (only) in her dressing options means to limit her freedom and mobility throughout the society (it is happening mostly in Pakistan). It’s not a crime for a woman to dress up as she wants, it will also not reduce the rate of crime as everyone perceives.

The question that still arises today in my mind (even after so much emphasis on gender equality etc.) when will this society get liberal enough to grant free will to ladies to spend their lives? Modest dressing is not hidden in the perspective of Shalwar Kameez or jeans. Modest dressing is where you are comfortable enough to sit or stand and your curves are not obvious.

If we talk about Islamic perspective and culture, the purpose of modesty is the hijab, to cover the awrah and awrah varies in different situations and amongst different groups of people. It means that a girl has the right to interpret what’s in QURAN about modest dressing. Therefore, there is not only one right for women to dress modestly but a multitude of right ways.

But in Pakistan, the only parameter to check the modesty of a woman is the Hijab. As a matter of fact, about dressing in universities, every girl is mature enough to know what to wear and what type of clothes suits her. No one has any right to regulate her dressing. Every man and woman have a desire to look better and confident. If men feel handsome and decent in simple jeans and suit, in the same way, women feel confident, pretty and comfortable in jeans and kurti.

Every girl happens to hear such comments in her lifetime, mostly in her university life as well as professional, “Look she is wearing, jeans with top, she’s out of religion course, her parents gave her full freedom, she is trying to seek attention, our religion doesn’t permit to wear that stuff etc.”

Come on, grow up! Our religion promotes modest dressing. There is a fine line between being vulgar and modest. Every girl knows better. Moreover, in other Islamic countries, girls wear jeans and top and it’s up to them to carry it with scarf and hijab in educational and cooperate sectors.

Contrarily, there is another standpoint as well that girl shouldn’t follow the fashion trends blindly. She should wear what goes well on her physique. For example, tights don’t look appropriate on bulky girls, and long length shirts don’t fit best on short girls, a person looks more sophisticated when they follow professional dressing in a corporate world. That’s Attriforma’s point of view, “Decency leads to success”

It’s a desire of every man and woman to look better, sober and confident. If men feel fine looking decent in simple jeans and suit, the same way women feel confident, appealing and comfortable as well. Stop making a pair of jeans be the judging criteria of a women’s character. In the end, I just want to conclude that a woman can only create a change for women. So, next time, whenever someone points out your dressing or someone who sits by your side starts commenting on girls’ dressing, you have the responsibility to direct him truly.

When you create positivity in yourself, you see the world with a new perspective. There are a lot more things in the world to discuss instead of criticizing and judging women. “God knows human beings better than you. You don’t know how much pious and religious she is. Rather than giving your cheap views about her character, change your judgments, think positively.”

Girls, every man is not the same. Stop crying on gender biasness and start working on boosting your self-confidence and strength. As it’s understood that, “Women may be less strong physically, but mentally, they are stronger than men.”